What's life without amazing friends? Sometimes beautiful souls fall into our lives and we thank God for them. Other times, we need to be intentional about building our inner circle. The people around us have too much affect on our lives to be picked at random. So if you're not sure what you're missing, here are 5 people you absolutely need in your favorites.
1. The Unwavering Believer
Proving people wrong gets tiring. The weight of low expectations is heavy. Not so heavy that you can't carry it. But you do need someone who'll hold your arms up when you get tired.
That person who reminds you of your strength when all you see is weakness, and says, "you can," when the "can't's" get too loud. She doesn't encourage at the expense of honesty, but always finds a way to lovingly refocus your attention on the ability to figure out and overcome. She reminds you who you are when you forget and never counts it an obligation or a burden, but a privilege to be there.
You can absolutely Have It All. But this person assures that you'll never have to do it alone. Who's your Unwavering Believer?
2. The Director
None of us know everything. And being the ambitious woman you are, trying new things is a must. You need someone who's an expert in your given field, and willing to share lessons learned the hard way.
That person has credentials on paper and fruit of those credentials in her life. She doesn’t look down on you for being a beginner, but instead recognizes your talent and enjoys helping you make the most of it. She isn't threatened by your potential or success because she's secure in what she's built.
Of course you’re smart enough to figure it out on your own. But you realize that time is priceless. You need someone who can give you direction because of her experience. Who's your Director?
3. The Networker
They say, “Who you know is your business card and who knows you is your resume.” Successful people have the right people in those two categories.
You need someone who expands your circle. She's a master at mutually beneficial partnerships and has no problem connecting you to others; she knows helping you shine won't dull hers. When you need something, she says, “Oh, I know a person for that,” and then sends you contact info or makes a warm introduction. She may not spend a ton of time working with you on your business or social calendar. But you know that when you need something, she'll get it done or find someone else who can.
You can’t meet everyone yourself. Who's your Networker?
4. The Insightful One
Part of the journey is learning to trust your own voice, your own intuition. It's a must. But sometimes your voice gets you stuck and you can't see the next step. You need someone to help you see things differently.
That person who listens without judging, asks the right questions and advises without an agenda. She gives you options without demands, and doesn't take it personally when you choose another way. While talking to her, you often say the magical phrase, "Wow, I've never thought of it that way before." There are times you know what steps are in your best interest. But when you don't, she's there to help you see things from another angle. Who's your Insightful One?
5. The Spiritual Advisor
You ever wanted to do the right thing in a situation, asked yourself, "WWJD," but honestly didn't know? Or needed someone you know prays daily to pray specifically for you?
We all need at least one person who walks the talk and is willing to walk with us. That person you can go to for just the right scripture for any situation, who reminds you that God is a God of miracles and you can trust Him. She doesn’t expect you to be perfect but holds you accountable to showing God you love Him. She walks in love without religiosity and faith without entitlement.
Your personal relationship with God is a beautiful thing. But this was never meant to be a solo journey. Who is your Spiritual Advisor?
Evaluate Your Circle!
Now that we’ve detailed the 5 people we need, look at your inner circle. Which ones do you already have, and which are the relationships you need to develop more? Which role do you play for the people in your life? Leave a comment below and share with anyone in your inner circle!
Cheers to confidence, clarity and happiness!
XOXO ~ Chantelle